QUESTIONS IN LIFE

Sutrisno Bachir said on his campaign, "HIDUP ADALAH PERBUATAN" (= Life is actions). But for me Life is a journey from a question to another question. I think I have written this on previous posting. But I need to re-write this issues but with different style. I just want to focus on questions in Life.

Back to questions in life. Do you still remember what have people questioned a whole of your life? I do remember all typically questions. Herewith some questions that I remember:

1. When I was a baby 3-4 years, adult loved to ask me or my parents, "Hi little girl! When will you go to school?". My mom would answer, "Oh, she is still 4years, may be soon after she has enough school-age we'll enroll her to preschool".
2. When I was in preschool, people asked me, "Oh smart little girl. What grade are you now? Can you read? Can you write? Can you draw?". And I would happily answer, "I'm in 5th grade now. I can read alphabet and write letter". People would smile at me. And my mom would patiently explain to people that I was still in preschool.
   
3. Then another question was, "When will you go to elementary school?"
4. When I was in elementary school, the main question was, "When will you graduate from elementary school?"
5. When I was in High School, people asked me, "Hey, you've grown up now. When will you be a student of university? What will you take?"
6. When I was in university, "Oh...now you are a pretty girl. Where is your university? When will you graduate?".
7. When I had just graduated from university, People asked me, "When will you get job?"
8. After I got job for 1-2 years. Again people disturbed me with questions, "Then when will you marry? Who is your boyfriend?". As I followed what Islam said not to have boyfriend before married. I was just in silent and smiled.
9. Then after I married, People asked me, "Oh long time no see, how is your doing? Have you had baby? When?
   

And I guess after this phase of life people will still disturb me with other questions:

1. "When will you have 2nd kids?"
2. "When will you have 3rd, 4th....etc?"
3. Then "Is this your last child?"
4. Then when my baby grown up again the same question that people asked when I was child, teenage, grown up will be asked to me as my parents got. "When will your son/daughter marry?"
   
5. "When will you have grand child?"
6. bla.....bla...bla....

I guess the last question may be will be, "When will you die?"

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BROKEN CHAIR

Friday, 25 July '08 was my bad day. I fell down due to broken chair in my office. I sat on chair with broken back rest. That time was almost dismissal time around 5.30 pm. I was laughing with my friends. Then I reclinated. Suddenly, the back rest broke. Before I fell down, my head collided the wood table with glass cover. Masha Allah, everything was so dark. I realized when my head totally collided floor with carpet and my friends helped me after few seconds in silent due to SHOCK. It was too bad. I felt shock and headache. Everybody worried about me. They warned me if I felt queasy and threw away it indicated bad effects. And I had to go to doctor to check.

Yeah, I passed my night with headache. But Alhamdulillah, everything was ok in the morning. Well, should i prosecuted for my accident in office? Hahahah...........a lesson that I got from that accident was:

1. Quick check your chair before sit.
2. Reduce your overweight!
3. Contact General Affair (GA) to replace your broken chair.
4. Bring your own chair.
5. Just standing a whole day.
6. Or just sitting on the floor.

Hahahha..........

P.S. I'm not an overweight girl, my weight is only 41kg

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ROMANTIC CAT

Do you think animal also has romantic feeling to his/her lover. Well, after you read this story, you'll understand that animal also has feeling.

Basically, I love cat since I was a little girl. But my 1st cat was given from my best friend. When I was at 5th grade, my best friend left me due to she had to follow her family. Her family would relocate to another island. Her daddy was promoted to be manager in Oil Company. It was a very good step for her daddy career. So they decided to move. And my best friend should left me.

She had 2 cats. Both of them were male. They were 'Polly' with black and white beautiful hair and 'Puss' with yellow hair. She loved her cats very much. But unfortunately she couldn't bring that cat with her to new island. She was so sad. But then her family decided to give her cats to me and to another family in Jakarta.

In short, I got Polly. And he is great-grandparents of my cats now.There was beautiful story about Polly. Beside he prefer to eat cooked spinach than fried fish. He had beautiful love story also. Polly basically was a house-cat. He had never been outside the house. He spent his child time inside the house, played with family member and Puss in the big house, ate best cat food and never seen mice or rat. When he moved to my little house. He was amazing with the situation. All looked scary for him. He always ran when he heard strange voice, e.g. a man pushed a cart-wheel. And he saw mice for the first time.

But he still got best fish and cooked spinach also. And we gave him extra milk also. He had special plate to eat and special plastic cup to drink in kitchen. We just needed to make sound when plate and cup collided to call him. And he would run fas to come. It was EATING TIME.

Well, after couple months he was with us. May be, he was grown up in our house. He met a female cat for the first time in our house. He was adopted since baby and he forgot his mom already. They were so many wild cats surrounded my house. He fell in love with a cat girl. Name was MANIS. Manis means of 'cute'. Manis was a cute female cat and had color as Puss had. She had beautiful yellow hair. I knew that due to I always saw Polly followed Manis. And couple times Polly and Manis slept side in side in our terraces.

You know how a wild cat's life? MANIS was a wild cat. She usually got eat by stealing fish from people kitchen, or getting fish bone in dust bin. Polly was a typically house-cat. Polly was terribly in love with Manis. and He understood about Manis position. Manis was always in hunger. Polly couldnt see it happened to his beloved lady. He offered his food to his lady. But how? It means Manis should enter my house to eat Polly's food. Yeah, I dont know how Polly could bring Manis inside my kitchen. But oneday when I was peeping at him on his lunch time. I saw Manis was eating Polly's food. And Polly was sitting behind her, kept watching Manis finished her lunch. Wow......

But when I was out from my concealment behind the wall. Polly was acting to show us that he enjoyed his food and Manis hided from my sight. Oh..........so sweet. Polly was a romantic cat. He was adorable in our place. So many female cats loved him. I was almost thinking, he was a charming prince before a wicked lady cursed him. Because he was a different cat. He loved rice and cooked spinach, ice cream, fish, durian, etc that people loved to eat. And he would become a human again after he was kissed by special girl who loved him so much. Hahahhaah....... I did. I kissed him. But he was never been a charming prince as a frog prince did. He was still cat and did 'meooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnggggggggggg..........!!!".

Ah, Polly passed away few years ago. I missed him so much. Hope you will rest in peace. But now I have another cat. Tiger, he is Polly's great grand children. Hahhaha.........but he is a real cat. He doesnt like spinach as Polly did.

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MARRIAGE

Today I talked to my friend. She told me about her problem to her husband. It was not kind of big deal problem. It was a simple problem but it became greater due to typically wife behavior. She thought it was a big problem and should be solved as soon as possible. But she insisted to claim that her opinion was right and blamed husband was the problem's creator. She claimed that her husband didn't want to concede.

I just listened it carefully. I imagined about what has happened to me. Masha Allah, I really wanted to laugh my fool. It has happened couple times. And I did the same as my friend did. Although i've never shared it.

After i took some times to think. Then I gave some solutions for my friend. I hope it useful. But then I started to think, 'WHich is more sensitive and emotional between man and woman?" If you are married, you would have known by now how soon women yield to emotions faster and are more sensitive than men even in the smallest matters.

Am I right?

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

Few days behind I was really emotionally. I was in anger. Why? I usually expressed my anger by crying or writing something that makes everybody know that I was really anger. Although I didnt use sarcasm words. But he/she must be know that I was in anger.

According to Wikipedia, Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline.^[1] Some view Anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain.^[2] Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

Anger is a natural expression. When you are irritated by something or someone, you will get angry. Different people will have different ways to express their anger. Some people will behave aggressively and even you will never imagine it before. Because when you are get angry, it will be accompanied by physcological and biological changes. your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. Am i right?

Why some people easyly get angry than other people? There is evidence that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered. Another may be sociocultural, because they are raised in family who always express their anger aggressively. People in some regions are easyly get angry than other regions. Anger is often regarded as negative; When we get angry we'll not behave logically but we use 100 % emotional. Even anger will cause bad destruction.

We are taught that it's all right to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively. Thats why we need 'Anger Management'.

Whats the mean of 'anger management'? Anger Management is a management to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. When we get angry we release so much negative energies. Then how to manage anger and convert negative energy to be positive energy. Anger will cause high blood pressure. High blood pressure will cause many disease. And that disease will cause you die before the time. Although we know that Allah has decided when will we return to Allah, even before we born.

Here is some steps of 'anger management'. Hope it will useful for you:

1. Recite, ASTAGHFIRULLAHAL ADZIM
2. Relaxing your mind; take a depth breath, close your eyes, imagine good things
3. Take a Wudhu (is the Islamic act of washing parts of the body using water. Muslims are required to perform wudu in preparation for ritual prayers and for handling and reading the Qur'an. Wudu is often translated as "partial ablution", as opposed to ghusl, or "full ablution")
4. Solve the problem it as soon as possible before it getting worse.
5. Better Communication, listen carefully to what the other person saying and dont say anything before you think it carefully. Sometimes one anger will cause another worse anger, just because you make it worse by saying SARCASM. Or better you just express your anger in writing.
6. If it doesnt work. Please call 911...Emergency...or anybody that can help you.

Insha Allah, everything is going to be okay. About my anger......I think I've forgotton already. Oh, i apologize if i have insulted you. I was really angry and sad yesterday. I know it hurted you, although i just used my writing. Aku Cinta Kamu. Sungguh, kau permataku

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REFFY & METRO TV

Few days ago, METRO TV has just launched new mascot and declared itself as The Election Channel or Referensi Pemilu Indonesia. Actually since 2004, Metro TV has been The Election Channel. But this year METRO TV needs to strengthen itself as The Onen and Only Election Channel in Indonesia. Why? Every people has known that METRO TV has successfully held TV programme that supported National Election in 2004. In 2004, Metro TV was the only news TV channel. But now? TVONE is a competitor. TVONE is another TV which has good news.

I dont know why, TVONE is almost similar to METRO TV. If METRO TV is being proud with its go-international style, TVONE is being proud as Indonesian TV. TVONE always try to chase METRO TV. Even TVONE try to be better than METRO TV. If METRO TV has Metro Pagi, Metro Siang, Metro Malam. TVONE has Kabar Pagi, Kabar Siang, Kabar Malam. If METRO TV has Market Review. TVONE has Kabar Pasar. If METRO TV has Snapshot, TVONE has Mata Kamera (TRANS TV has John Pantau). See Who is the trend setter???

Of course TVONE try to make a false start by declared itself as TV Pemilu. They want to be competitor or even better TV News which support National Election in 2009. So...of course METRO TV should be better than 2004. Well, METRO TV proudly present mascot for their Election Channel Programme. Yeah....Its a Reffy.

Why should METRO TV launch mascot?

According to Wikipedia. The term mascot – defined as a term for any person, animal, or object thought to bring luck – colloquially includes anything used to represent a group with a common public identity, such as a school, professional team team, society, or brand name. Mascots are also used as fictional spokespeople for consumer products, and regularly used as goodwill ambassadors in the community for their team, company, or organization.

REFFY has made METRO TV's tag-line as The Election Channel more eye-catching still in blue. Anyway....We really need TVONE and other TV as competitors. It will make us to keep and improve our news quality day by day. Lets be smart and be informed with the leading News TV Channel.Long live METRO TV!

P.S. its not an advertisement, I just want to share my feeling.

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